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sazquatch:

Tbh if you’re stuck on the “Telling women that their choices are made due to patriarchal socialisation is infantilising!! Don’t tell us we aren’t in complete control of our choices, we’re grown women!!” line of thought, maybe stop, check your ego at the door, and realise that every human, by virtue of being human, is profoundly influenced by the cultural norms of their society. 

It’s not a personal condemnation of you or a suggestion that you’re too unintelligent to think for yourself, it’s a statement of fact that humans’ ways of thinking and conceptualising themselves cannot be untethered from their society. If we can acknowledge that we live in a patriarchal society, we also have to acknowledge that that society influences us. 

You can be offended that these influences exist exist, but don’t deny that they affect everyone because you’re personally upset about being told that we don’t all make choices freely.