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letters-to-lgbt-kids:

My dear lgbt+ daughters who don’t know if they’re lesbian or bi, 

I have been there. I knew i liked girls… But only girls? Maybe i’ll one day like a boy and just didn’t meet the right one yet? But maybe that’s just me subconsciously believing i’m not allowed to be attracted to only girls? But what if i say i’m a lesbian and then fall in love with a boy, everyone will think i was a liar.. But can i say i’m bi when i’ve never had a crush on a boy yet? 

Oh, it drove me crazy. It felt like everyone else just knew and i was the only girl with those doubts. Maybe those doubts are a sign i’m just faking? And a new train of questions started. 

If you’re in the same situation, let me tell you a secret: It doesn’t matter. 

Well, of course your label does matter. Having the right label is a great way to express your feelings, and feeling connected to a label is very comforting and empowering. I’m not saying that finding the right label is not important. I fully understand your doubts, i know how important it is for you. 

But if i could somehow travel back in time and visit younger me, i would tell her “Darling, it doesn’t matter. It doesn’t matter if you find the right label today or in a month or in three years. You will find it. You’ll figure it out. You have so much time to learn about yourself and your feelings. There’s no need to rush. So what if you use the label lesbian now and one day fall in love with a boy? So what if you use bi and later discover that you’re not actually attracted to anyone but girls? You still have time to change your label when (and if) that happens. Use whatever feels nice right now. Don’t worry so much about the what-if and just enjoy the right now. You like girls! That’s exciting!” 

I want to tell you the same thing. 

Don’t worry so much, baby girl. You’ll figure it out. 

With all my love, 

Your Tumblr Mom